I don’t know what’s the exact phrase to describe the post title. In Chinese, it literally means “brushing shoulder and moving on”. Which loosely means getting to know someone very briefly or having someone cross your path briefly and move on. You geddit? -___-“
Anyways, I don’t know if you have similar experiences in life where you come to know someone but never really bother to get to know him/her better. But sometime down the road, you realize you both have quite an amount of similar interest and even social circles. Then, you begin to get curious about his/her life. Then, you slowly discover all the common interests and just wish you have known this person much earlier. Well, I do.
Although this doesn’t happen so often, but knowing me, I am not a very friendly & sociable person if I don’t preset my mind to be so. In other words, by default, I’m just not a very friendly person. I will not attempt to make friends especially if I do not have sufficient “observing” time to make that decision. Weird, I know. But this is me. So, there’s this one colleague at work..or should I say ex-colleague. I have to honestly admit, my 1st impression of her was not so good. She’s overly bubbly and overly bursting loud that I felt it was a little intimidating (especially in an office environment). I never quite bother to really know her and in fact, I even thought of staying outside the radar. To add on, I eventually found out that she was actually seeing a guy whom I came to know during an extremely impressive interview program (long story). That guy left a very good impression – bright, well spoken and very charming I must say.
A month or less before she left my company, I remember discovering that she is actually a Christian from Taiping who travels back to her hometown every weekend to serve in her home church. When I talked to her about it, she explained that it would be wrong not to serve at her home church because every young adult has chosen to leave town and leaving a big age gap. Those who serve in church would know what that really means. Honestly, at that point, my perception of this overly-bursting-character person, somehow changed. Then, came the time when my CG were preparing to go for the Hospital Outreach project. I went to her and asked her for some help with translation of prayers for the sick. And she not only prepared a few prayers for me in Chinese, she even spent the time with me reading through and translating the words to Pinyin for me. Sweet ain’t it? Still…at that point, we were just mere strangers to one another. Moreover, the nature of our job function does not quite allow us to “get too close” (hard to explain).
Then, after she left & settled down in US, we connected again via FB & Gchat. As time goes by, we began to wonder why didn’t we get to know one another better when we were still in the same company! 😛 Funny eh? 天意弄人(destined). Anyways, I dunno why I’m babbling about this suddenly. I just think I’m envious of her life now with her husband (that guy). They have their little home and have a nice cozy life in US. I think I really need to have my own space; my own life. I’m missing out the purpose of living again…
Time to talk to Him..